loving the little years. {interview with Rachel Jankovic part two}

Loving the Little Years

I was blessed to have an opportunity to interview Rachel Jankovic, author of Loving the Little Years: Motherhood in the Trenches  Catch up with part one and part three of this three-part interview.


{Part two of three.}

ME: With children who are old enough to understand what you’re talking about, and once spelling out the occasional word in an effort to communicate is no longer an option, do you have any ways you find helpful and enjoyable to communicate with Luke regularly about what is going on with your and the kids’ hearts?
RACHEL: I am super blessed that my husband and I really enjoy each other. So it is very natural for us to communicate. For example, I often text him while he is at work – sometimes only something like “blahahahaha!” and he would text back something like “Woop doggie?” and then we would conclude with “love you!” Not exactly formal communication, but we keep in touch and make each other laugh with these sorts of things.  He is a great and very involved dad, so he talks with the kids about how they are doing, and with me about them, etc. He really is the best!
ME: Considering that “Christian childrearing is a pastoral pursuit, not an organizational challenge” (from chapter 10, Know Your Sheep), are there simple ways you have found that are helpful to you to keep some sense of order around your home?
RACHEL: I am constantly engaged in trying to keep our house orderly, but I don’t have any one big trick or strategy. I have found that it changes through different seasons of life. I have done lots of different things – laying clothes out the night before, and emptying the dishwasher before bed in one phase. Setting the table for dinner in the afternoon in another phase. 
I tend to be a bit artistic with the kids (meaning they can cut, color, glue, tape, paint, sew, knit, make things out of shoeboxes, etc. whenever they want.) Our messes can be big! But it is reflective of the life being lived in it. We’ve been working with the kids on taking responsibility for things that you yourself didn’t mess up – chipping in without being asked, helping out with general cleaning, etc. We have lots of room to improve here, and I hope we keep improving! As I said in the book, the biggest kind of order that we are striving for in our home is fellowship together. So in that sense, the answer is really keeping short accounts. My Dad was always fond of saying that the difference between a clean house and a messy house is not how many things were dropped, it is how many things were picked up. We try to pick up bad attitudes and disagreements quickly. The best practice in this is of course for mom to not be leaving these kinds of messes all over the house. And when you do mess up, pick it up right away!


Family Favorites Loving the Little Years

{This book is part is one of our family’s favorite biblical resources.}


loving the little years. {interview with Rachel Jankovic part one}

Loving the Little Years

To the point, brilliant, grace-filled, and hilarious.  Rachel Jankovic’s Loving the Little Years: Motherhood in the Trenches has been such a blessing to me, that I chose to include it in our family favorites, because of the very real application it has had in my life as a mother.  Rachel has ministered to my heart, through her faithfulness to train her children in godliness, and by thoughtfully encouraging other mothers to persevere in, and enjoy the calling of motherhood.

I was excited to have an opportunity to interview Rachel with some questions I was curious about.  I completely enjoyed her answers and look forward to sharing them in this three-part interview.   There’s more available from part two and part three.

{Part one of three.}

ME: I love how short (sometimes just two pages) and thought-provoking each chapter is. It’s about the amount of time I have to read at any given time. Does it reflect the realities of long you had to write them?   
RACHEL: Yes, totally! I write while at home with little people. I don’t sit down to write until I know what I am going to say. So most of my time is spent thinking, and then a few short minutes actually writing. The short and to the point style is definitely reflective of the style of my life. I really don’t have the time to write longer things, and I also don’t have the mental space to carry one long and sustained train of thought. But I’m guessing you know how that feels!
ME: Your writing of gospel truths have ministered to me in Mothering the Little Years, as well as your articles on Desiring God and posts on your family’s Femina blog. What are some writings from others that have most ministered you?
RACHEL: Well, it has been a while since I read any of them – but I have to go with the books from my parents (Doug and Nancy Wilson) on family. The best part of these is that knowing them so well, I can really endorse that they are the people they seem like they are, that they did what they talk about, and that we all have a really sweet relationship. My parents are hands down the most sacrificial, loving, faithful, kind people that I know. Growing up to be like them would be pretty great!

Family Favorites Loving the Little Years

{This book is part is one of our family’s favorite biblical resources.}

Family Favorites

Our Family Favorites

“Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.”  {Ephesians 5:15-17}

Early morning coffee with my friends recently led into a thoughtful discussion about whether there are favorite things we do in our homes, to purposefully promote scripture, wisdom, and the gospel of Jesus with our children.  Here is a collection of some my family’s favorite biblical resources, that God has been using to bless us.  


Loving the Little Years

Loving the Little Years: Motherhood in the Trenches {Part One} {Part Two} {Part Three}

The Jesus Storybook Bible

The Jesus Storybook Bible

Life at the Pond

Life at the Pond

gt and the halo express

G.T. and the Halo Express


Seeds Family Worship

be still and know that I am God.


One of my favorite places to be is out on these incredible rocks jutting out from the shoreline along the North Shore.  Usually the waves crash into the rocks, bearing into them, and making them sleek and black.

But on this early May morning, the water was still.  Barely even lapping the rocks.  

I snuggled up to the water’s edge with my Bible before any of my family was awake; while He restored my soul.


He leads me beside still waters.  He restores my soul.  {Psalm 23:2-3}


Be still and know that I am God. {Psalm 46:10}


For you are my rock and my fortress; and for your name’s sake you lead me and guide me; {Psalm 31:3)

a brand new four year old


Tonight ended with a brand new four-year-old covered in green and purple frosting and toothpaste bouncing around the house and finally fast asleep under his hippo covers.  (And me sobbing).

Shae’s very special day was filled with things we love best, Curious George, stories, building tall towers, talking, praying, reading our bibles, tickles, giggles, eating and lots of love.


The boys fell asleep in an instant, still caked in frosting, and I watched Father of the Bride.  I cried and cried, thinking constantly of the big green eyes that have my attention all day long.  


I am completely caught up in the blessings of my little boys, yet I also know how fleeting our days are.  Tonight, I am enjoying the frosting.

{Man is like a breath; his days are like a passing shadow. -Psalm 144:4}


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My mom invited Shae and me to go downtown with her this afternoon.  It was quite amusing.  I was in sneakers and all around me were heels.  And rather than hoodies, most others had stylish, probably-not-syrup-proof blouses.  But what fun we had!  I love being downtown.  

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Seeing it through Shae’s little eyes was so sweet.  Everything was so fascinating to him.


It was a complete joy to be down there, and an even bigger treasure to come home.  I love the blessing of my life.  Thank you God.